So after the whole plod episode on Monday, I go to get the girls from the bus.They were both ten foot tall when I`d left them in the morning, sporting new hair styles, lookin and feeling great. I`ve put pics up of them, they`re gorgeous.

Nat got light purple streaks in her fringe and pony tail, Bek went all out and got "red corvette" streaks through hers and it looks awesome!

I need to explain something here - I don`t "do" suppression with my kids. If they want to express, they express. I find with my girls it`s usually channelled with maturity, even negative energy - paint a black rainbow, whatever, but THEY have their own control over their expression. I`m not a dictator.

On saying that, neither of my girls have been in trouble at school or anywhere else - ever.

I`ve always been commended on how well behaved, mannered, genuine, helpful, kind and respectful my kids are. Always.

Bek has been bullied, she knows not to react out of anger, she`s been teased and picked on for her weight but she knows that "little people" need to make "big people" feel "little" in order to feel "big" themselves. She just doesn`t indulge them.

She`s just a good, kind, loving, NON JUDGMENTAL kid.

We ARE an expressive family, Bek being a Leo especially loves it. I let her go for it, I`m not going to have an oppressed 16 year old who has a Pandoras box full of unexpressed childhood head ****s that don`t need to be there.

Know what I`m saying?

My focus here is on Bek, because that kid got on the bus this morning with her head held high and a bounce in her step, this afternoon she got off with slumped shoulders and a dejected look on her face.

She got into the truck and burst into tears.

What? What? Tell me?!

She tells me between sobs that she was removed from the playground at school and made spend her lunch hour in the DETENTION ROOM BECAUSE OF HER HAIR.

What the ****? Start again, I`m missing something.

I thought she said she got detention because of her HAIR.

She did. And I`m STILL missing something.

Me - What about your  hair? It`s ****en hair.

Bek - It`s inappropriate for school.

Me - What is? Hair?

Bek - No, the colour. It`s inappropriate and I have to have it out by tomorrow and see the principal before class to show her (she bursts into tears again.

Me - Your hair?

Bek - Yes mum, my hair.

Me - Is inappropriate?

Bek - yes mum.

Me - Who told you that?

Bek - The Detention teacher and the principal and the teacher that sent me to detention.

Me - Why were you in detention?

Bek - Because of my hair.

Me - You need to start from the beginning chicky, I`m comin to school with you tomorrow.

Nat pipes up proudly from the back seat - My teacher said my hair is very pretty.

I say - it is honey, both of you look beautiful.

I can`t believe I can`t sleep right now because of hair.

Really. Lets examine hair.

It grows on most peoples heads and they **** with it. They tie it up, straighten it, colour it, put wax and gel and all sorts of sticky shit in it, they style it, they cut it, they grow it, they lose it.

Who gives a ****?

It`s hair.

Mines ****en pink, Bens is a mo hawk, Dans is shaved and Nats is purple.

Big ****ing deal.

IT`S HAIR!

I`m losing sleep over this shit.

Ok, so Beks sitting at school eating her lunch, a teacher walks by and says "I don`t know if your hair is appropriate for school uniform".

Deadset that`s how it started. What the ****?

Who is she? The ****en HAIR NAZI?

So she writes a note and tells Bek to go see the detention teacher then assigns a kid to escort her, I`m presuming this is incase she does a runner, you can never tell with those "inappropriate hair" wearers.

She gets to the detention room, a little bit freaked out cos she`s not sure if she`s in trouble or not and what she`s done wrong?

The detention teacher reads the note and says "NO,NO,NO! WHY did you do THAT?"

Bek says "cos it`s what I wanted and mum said yes"

The detention teacher shook her head, told Bek she was a SILLY GIRL and to take a seat. She then proceeded to tell Bek the perils of dying ones hair.

SO ****ING WHAT?? IT`S HAIR!

IT NEVER ****ING RUNS OUT! If you shave it, it grows back and if it doesn`t, who gives a ****? Wear a hat, a bandana, a wig, it doesn`t matter. You know why?

COS IT`S ****ING HAIR.

It grows from you, it doesn`t make you.

Then the teacher went on to tell Bek that she`ll never fit in anywhere if she keeps having unacceptable hair.

By this time Beks feeling like shit, she`s had her new look that she was so happy with torn to shreds by INCONSIDERATE JUDGEMENTAL ****S and still isn`t sure if she`s in trouble.

The bell goes and she gets sent back to class, only to be called out to the Principals office.

She shit herself. What`s the scariest thing that can happen when you`re a kid at school? Getting called to the Principals office. She started crying before she even got there and told them she was so sorry, she didn`t know she was doing anything wrong.

The shit this is doing to my head so far is sooo ****ing unhealthy.

She gets to the office and the Principal tells her that THE WAY SHE LOOKS IS INAPPROPRIATE, she is to remove the red from her hair and report to the office before class the next day so they can make sure it`s gone.

The way she looks.

Who the **** tells a kid that "the way they look" is ****ed?

WHO does that shit? No-one with a ****ing heart.

I`m going to see the hair nazis tomorrow.

*sigh* WHY do people have to make shit so much harder than it needs to be?

Really.

I re-iterate.

It`s hair.

Now it`s going to turn into a "society acceptability" means test shit ****ing pile.

I don`t "do" society and I don`t "do" judgement, therefore I think their standards should **** off and cling to their own kind.

And Bek isn`t changing her hair until SHE choses to.

Blah.